1% of 1% of kids who play sports go pro. Its a
race that doesn’t exist. Its like playing the lottery to win! Just heard a kid
say he wanted to play for his HS over club team so he could hear the fans from
his school and talk to his friends and classmates about the game in school the
next day. The kids inherently want to experience life skills! Ever seen a 2nd
grade teacher with a Masters degree try to get her kids to line up properly to
go to gym or lunch? Now you want to tell me that there is a realistic and not
adult made up elite 2nd grade travel sports? Parents: ever had an older child
take something from a younger child? Ever had them share? Which do you have to
teach them to do more often, to be competitive or to get along? The best
learning environment is when the teacher and the student learn together, and
both share that knowledge with others who have the same or less ability. It’s
called community, and it is very important for later on in life coping skills. Sometimes
you have to treat the symptom to relax the patient first. Then we treat the
disease. We need more tolerance and inclusion, not eliteness and exclusion.
Frozenshorts
Monday, July 11, 2016
Thursday, June 9, 2016
The Stanford Rape Case and the Entitlement Culture
Much has been written about this case, and deservedly so. I
have what I believe to be a different perspective on the matter. What I want to
know about this case is why very few people are talking about the culture that
had to exist for this to happen. Let me explain.
I want to know what kind of culture exists that, when a
person is intoxicated at a party, there is no support system for that person to
be helped home or at least help to provide them transportation.
When did we lose that sense of community where extreme
behavior by a person is not cause for concern amongst friends? Or even
strangers that are in contact with this person are not alarmed and want to
help?
I do not have the whole story on the two men who came to her
aid but I am pretty sure one of them was not from America. That seems to me to
possibly be a big part of the story. What is prevalent in his culture that he
would immediately come to the aid of a person he did not know? I see article
and videos every day of people in trouble while bystanders sit and watch.
Now I want to talk about the dad. I have a daughter. She is
21 years old and a senior in college. She is an A student. I would hope that
when she is around people that ALL of them are looking out for one another with
a deep sense of community and well being. If this happened to my daughter I
would be outraged at the boy and his father.
The father’s statement reeks of entitlement. I would like to
know his background. What did he provide for his son during his youth sports
ruse in the swimming environment and home environment that set up this cause
and effect scenario? What is the dad’s background? Do they come from wealth?
What we do at Frozen Shorts is to try and change the
culture. We want people to embrace the fact that they are children and need to
be taught life lessons. The need to fail, they need to sacrifice, and they need
to understand that we are all in this together. I am not better than you. You
may be my opponent but I respect you and trust that you will play with
sportsmanship and fair competition.
His letter, his reaction, the Judge’s decision, and the
ensuing reaction are playing out all across the country, and rightly so. I
simply want to ask one last question.
How did you think this was all going to end up?
Entitlement, lack of community, the haves and the have nots,
are combined with a lack of accountability and ‘I got a raw deal so I can give
someone else a raw deal without guilt’. You have a formula for a culture that
is very unhealthy for our children’s future being promulgated and played out
every day.
Stop the tsunami.
Monday, May 23, 2016
Sports Talk Show Pillot Episode Testimonials
Sports talk
Show Pilot Testimonials
Our Pilot episode. A
different kind of sports talk show. Changing the culture. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UpiNdZAVlD8
Steven
Fineron VJ and Steve, I
just watched your short, and loved it!!! Coach Armstrong @ Rush Hen. had the
same way of teaching and COACHING!! @ the same time. Never beat Irondequoit.
the Whipple bro's killed us, but what said at the locker room meeting was...
did you give it your all? Look inside, take inventory, and be satisfied with it
, if not Find a new course. Thanks!! Old mem's are the best .
Steven
Fineron Loved the show,
that's sports!
Ralph Tetta Great show. I have to tell you, that in
my second year of coaching U12 Recreational League soccer, I am TERRIFIED about
being a bad coach. I worried first year about parents complaining that the team
didn't win enough, their kid didn't play enough, etc. etc. Vj, you gave me a copy of your book, and after
reading the first few chapters, I started to understand what was REALLY
important. When I worked with you on standup comedy, I told you that the first
rule was HAVE FUN. If it isn't fun, why do it in the first place? And yet, the
expectation I put on myself was 180 degrees away from that attitude when it
came to coaching sports. You changed my whole perspective. I have a 4th grader,
and equal numbers of 5th, 6th and 7th graders on my team this year. I'm sure no
parent expects their kid to be Abby Wambach. But they do expect me to keep it
fun, let the kids play, and encourage them to continue developing skills at
their pace and to whatever their ability. I look forward to further episodes of
your show. I would recommend leaving time at the end and perhaps a graphic to
communicate the services you offer, instead of shoe-horning it into the
conversation. I really liked what you and Steve had to say based on your
experience and I will continue to watch the segments you post. THANK YOU for
sharing this information, and hopefully the movement will pick up steam!
Monday, May 16, 2016
Truth and Consequences
Recently I had a parent tell me after one of my talks that
his son was driven to get an athletic scholarship to college. He understood
that some athletes could “afford” to
play multi sports, but they were very few. The multi sport athlete path to a
scholarship was only good for the truly gifted athletes.
His son needed to play one sport year round to get the DI
athletic scholarship. The extra time and
private lessons would allow him to get better faster. He also said that the
other athletes on his son’s club team were playing one sport year round. They
were getting “full rides.” His son was every bit as good as those other boys
who were getting athletic scholarships.
He then reiterated that since recruiting had gotten to be
for younger and younger kids that his 15 year old son could fall behind them if
he didn’t concentrate on one sport year round. Besides, his son loved his
sport. It was the only sport he wanted to play. Why would he take that dream
away from his son?
As he walked away I was struck by the thought : Who was he
trying to convince, me or him? You could see the angst in his tone and body
language. This whole process was stressing him out.
Was it because deep down he truly did not know if this path
was best for his son? Could it be that now that his son was 15 years old and
there were no offers he saw that a lot of time and money had been spent on a
pursuit that was slipping away? Now, he had to do everything in his power to
justify to himself and his family why he embraced this race that does not
exist?
Or was it simply true that he had been fed so much false
information over the years that he did not know who to believe. He did not know
who to turn to. He did not know who to trust.
This is why we do what we do at Frozen Shorts.
Sunday, May 8, 2016
MOM
Of all the gifts we can give our Mom
on Mother’s day the best gift, and by far the best gift, is time. It is the one
thing that cannot be bought but has incredible value. Actually, it is
priceless. It is the one thing that shows commitment, thoughtfulness, and love.
Every MOM desires, wants, and needs your time because they have wrapped their
heart and soul into family. The time you give to them makes them feel good. The
time spent with them creates memories. Moms live for experiences that are
turned into memories. It is the one gift that keeps on giving. Your MOM knows
that time can never be replaced or duplicated. It is finite and slipping away
by the day.
BUT time keeps on giving as she will have
memories of your time together that will far outweigh any material present.
There may be reasons that I do not understand that make it difficult for you to
reach out to your MOM and tell her you love her, and I am truly sorry for that.
But if you can find it in your heart to reach out, it will make her day, now
and forever. I know, I can’t say I love you to my MOM today and I think about
it every day. Miss you MOM. Love you forever. At 60 I am still a MOMAS boy and
proud of it. PEACE
Monday, May 2, 2016
The NFL Draft, Multi Sport athletes and THE OHIO State
THE NFL
Draft, Multi Sport Athletes, and THE Ohio State
When the NFL
draft was over many of us looked with interest as to the athletic background of
the players drafted. USA football actually posted the results. In fact 28 of
the 31 first round draft picks played multi sports.
If you follow me on twitter @VJJStanley you will
have read my interaction with Shelley Meyer on that social media, the wife of
head coach Urban Meyer and her support for our project. She let us know about her husband’s propensity
to recruit multi sport athletes, character and quality kids.
What you may
not have known, or seen was Urban putting the plan into action along with the
rest of the NCAA Division 1 coaches to recruit multi sport athletes. In fact in
this recruiting class alone He and his staff recruited 48 players of which 42
were multi sport athletes. Why is that important? THE Ohio State University
football team set a record for players drafted in the current 7 round draft in
2004. This year Ohio State had 5 picked in the first round, 2 more in the
second round, and 3 in the third. They completed their run with 2 more in the
fourth round for a total of 12.
Congratulations
to Urban Meyer and the other NCAA Division 1 coaches for using science to help
their programs and the children. The data is now in. Multi sport athletes have
a BETTER chance for a D1 scholarship and a pro career than athletes who
specialize.
Congratulations
to these young men, and especially their PARENTS for choosing the wise, healthy
choice for their children’s future athletic pursuit.
Next week a
parent’s response and our answer to him.
Monday, April 4, 2016
The Amusement Park
No one gets better
sitting on the bench, no one. There is not one thing sitting on the bench does
for an athlete that is not far outweighed by playing. In this ever changing
world we live in teaching children fair and honest competition and
sportsmanship is only learned by playing. Children learn by internal
realization, not external force. Sitting on the bench and not playing
scientifically speaking, affects the brain and cognitive ability to learn. Have
you ever traveled all day on a plane or car? How tired are you at the end of
the trip? You just sat all day. You get to your destination , say an amusement
park, and you don’t get to go on any of the rides. That's how the kids feel.
That is not a ripe environment to learn. As a head hockey coach in college we
had a simple philosophy. If you dress you play. No, not just one minute at the
end of the game either. At my company Frozen Shorts, we teach completion to
coach’s parents and athletes in our talks and seminars. Survival of the fittest
never meant one person. It meant a community. Inclusion not exclusion is the
new way to build championship teams. I am a very competitive person but I would
bench my mom in the last five minutes of a championship game even if she was my
best player. And it wouldn’t faze me. I would make sure I put her back in,
along with every other athlete thou. Failing is not failure. It’s not my job to
decide when how or even if the light goes on. My goal is to just keep flipping
the switch.
Work at it every day at our Co. there should never be U10 kids
sitting. You have to build the base. No one gets better sitting on the bench.
For 99% of the kids HS is it. Body doesn’t develop fully until 22, 23, and 24.
Most teams have 2 good kids and two not so well. Everyone else is interchangeable,
but they don’t all get to play. You always run faster when someone is chasing
you
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