5 Scholarship Myths

Five Division I Athletic Scholarship Myths

1.      MYTH:All athletic scholarships are for four years and include tuition, room, board, books, and spending money. FACT: In actuality MOST DI athletic scholarships are for one year. Each year, on July 1, the coach renews in writing the college’s commitment to you. The scholarship can be cancelled, reduced, or in some cases increased by the coach. The NCAA has recently allowed some multi- year scholarships. The average DI scholarship averages about $10,780 for a scholastic year. Football and basketball are “head count” scholarships and do cover full tuition, room, and board.

2.     MYTH:Division I athletic scholarships are easy to get. FACT:

 About 1% of all college students play at the Division I level. Only half of that 1% plays for free.

3.  MYTH: The Ivy League schools and the Military Academies have athletic scholarships.FACT: The Ivy League schools offer no athletic scholarships. The Military Academies give scholarships to ALL their students.

4.  MYTH:All D1 colleges fully fund their athletic scholarship program. FACT:Colleges are not required to fully fund their scholarship quota. In other words, if a D1 college has a men’s soccer program. The NCAA allows the college 9 full scholarships. I call them points. The coach can then divide these scholarships into fractions and spread them out throughout his team. He does not have to give every player on the team athletic scholarship money, and he does not. BUT, the college does not have to provide a total of 9 full scholarships to the men’s soccer program.

5.  MYTH: Academics are not important. FACT: Yes they are. There are 77 times more non athletic scholarships than athletic scholarships. To put it into perspective, 25% of ALL college students get some kind of financial aid. Conversely, only 1% of all student athletes get athletic scholarships. Even in the athletic scholarship arena, colleges have an academic index they must adhere to, and academics do count. College coaches want student athletes because they show the coaches discipline and they are more likely to stay for four years.

                                                                                                                              

What If?

What if I told you that . . .?

*balanced excellence, not specialization, is the key to athletic success and life?

*athletes only get better playing in games, not sitting on the bench?

*nothing a child does before puberty is a solid indicator of future athletic success?

*health is the leading indicator of future success for an athlete?  (that includes structured rest)

*playing for fun can help teams win way more than playing a sport just to win?

*just because you specialize in one sport, doesn’t mean your talent is special?

Let the journey through this book, just like your journey through youth sports and life, reveal to you the extrinsic message that will trigger the internal, intrinsic change in your own journey through youth sports and life.

Are you frustrated and tired of paying fees and footing the bill for your child’s participation in youth sports? Is the time you spend year-round going to practices and attending games wearing you down? Does your son or daughter find playing youth sports to be a chore, a job? Does it seem that the farther the player goes “up the ladder” in competition, the more problems arise and the less fun the player has?  Are the bulk of your financial contributions to your child’s participation in youth sports being used to support the development of one or two “star” players (not your child) on the team?  Do you and your family feel left out, alone? Do you feel the need to look at other options, but can’t figure out what they are and how to find them?

Are you thinking of volunteering to coach a team, but are unsure of what you’re getting into? Are you presently a coach who finds things just aren’t going the way you thought they would? Are you finding it difficult to get objective advice from people, worried they may have a hidden agenda?

Whether a parent or a coach, would you like some pointers and tips that will give a better feeling about what you’re doing? Are you just plain confused about the whole “youth sports” thing and would like to know what happened to the “fun” you experienced when you were young and part of a team?

Families and players are leaving youth sports en masse because of adverse treatment by coaches, players, and parents. Fun has been replaced by angst, bewilderment, and sometimes anger.

Why is all this happening? What are the short- and long-term consequences of people feeling this way?

One of my goals in writing this book is for people to understand how important balance is in achieving happiness and contentment in youth sports and life.  I’m really trying to help calm the angst and tense atmosphere so prevalent in today’s youth sports world. 

To check and tackle or not to check and tackle pre puberrty

To check and tackle or not to check and tackle pre puberty?

There is an increasing debate raging on whether or not checking should be allowed pre puberty in ice hockey as well as tackling in Pop Warner football. In New York State Legislation has been introduced that would eliminate all tackle football before the age of 11. In Canada checking in hockey is being eliminated pre puberty.

Let’s examine the problem and why this has become an issue.

“TBIs account for an estimated 1.6 million to 3.8 million sports injuries every year, with approximately 300,000 of those being diagnosed among young, nonprofessional athletes.”

Increased knowledge about concussions and their long term effect on children is being researched, developed, and brought out to the public in an increasing variety of ways. There are concussion tests that start with a baseline before the child plays. There is a blood test that measures protein.  Voice recognition is now coming to the forefront as another way to examine and treat this problem.

My own personal experience comes into play here. I have had 8 concussions total. The last two occurred within one week at Clarkson University while playing hockey and ended my playing career. The effects still haunt me today.

Two years ago, my wife decided to decorate our Christmas tree with a special treat for the kids. I was out making a speech and when I got home it hit me like a ton of bricks. She had bought blueberry candy canes, as an innocuous tree ornament. The first whiff of this started to give me a headache. Then my eyes started to water and my vision started to blur. When I tried to talk to her about this my words were slurred. It got to the point in just a matter of minutes that I could not speak and could not see. She led me upstairs to the bedroom and closed all the shades and put a hand cloth over my eyes. My wife then went downstairs and threw out the candy canes, opened all the windows and turned on the heat.

It took 4 hours before I returned to  normal.

People can argue all they want about the need to have kids learn checking and tackling early on in both football and hockey to toughen up the children, but it does not trump the health issue. Since we have a hard enough time getting trained coaches to teach these techniques, I believe that delaying contact until after puberty is a sound health solution.

It has been presented to me that the children will fall behind or become “wussys.”

If all contact is eliminated then no one will fall behind and no one will get an advantage. In Canada they conducted an experiment with one team of 12 year olds played with contact and another didn’t. No difference in development. Why? Because skill is still the most important physical aspect for any child to learn in youth sports.

 How many passes are made in a hockey game compared to checks thrown? How many shots taken? In football, how many kids quit playing because they don’t want to get continually clobbered every practice and game? Do we not have a responsibility to keep them active? Mentally, as always, it’s about having fun, so the child can relax and play with confidence. Am I to believe that children playing pickup games with no contact are not developing? Watch my videos and you will see where professional and college athletes and coaches say pick up games are fun and competitive, without contact.

Since there are many cases of kids and parents going over board when hitting is involved then eliminating that aspect of youth sports is another way to ramp down the angst at youth sports events. Some kids will want to go to next level and start contact and that’s great. I’m all for it. No parent that I have seen at a youth sports event goes nuts over a great pass, a fantastic run, or a beautiful goal.

Lastly let me remind you that 3.5 million children went to the hospital last year with over use injuries. If you don’t think the insurance companies are not going to see this and come up with a way to stop all the payments and keep people healthy you really haven’t been paying attention closely to the health situation in America where 30% of all children born after the year 2000 are headed for Type II diabetes.

Also, obesity has quadrupled over the last 30 years.

Let the children PLAY FOR FUN and be safe. 

The Kids Know: Part II

Our next child, and please remember that even though they may be 18 years of age they are still children, chose his own path and his own journey, through a process of one step back two steps forward. It’s not who starts first, but who finishes with most enriching experience that counts.

 But first, I want to set forth an explanation of my view of all children’s journey. Since I believe that if it is true, it is applicable to all scenarios; it is a journey that will help most children long term, and hopefully a journey that will teach both adults and children the inherent value of letting children figure things out themselves with a balance of guidance, love, safety, accountability, and support for their children.

 These children are still developing in many ways and in many areas, even at 18 and beyond. Our job, as parents, coaches,  and mentors, is to provide an environment for them that is rich in opportunities  while still being in a safe but not necessarily a protective environment, where their mistakes are more likely to turn into success, given time and positive reinforcement, than failure. We want them to make mistakes, YES WE DO. These mistakes provide with the necessary tools that teach themselves how to cope and to learn at their own pace, for their own needs, for their future, not ours.

 This child comes from a very good environment.  The parents had their children playing in the back yard with other children. The mom commented how if the children played in the back yard for an hour, they spent 20 minutes arguing about rules, 20 minutes playing, and 20 minutes eating. CLASSIC!

Let me interject here that national studies, by nationally known children’s experts have unequivocally stated that children, once shown what to do, learn faster, retain more information, and feel better about themselves, when left alone to figure things out for themselves. This process leads to a greater amount of creativity and interest, than continually telling them what to do.

She also related her son’s journey playing his chosen sport. After High School he chose to attend, tryout, and eventually play for his college varsity team. Although he ended up playing and starting for his team as a freshman, his success on the field was not matched by his attention and success in the classroom. He did not go back to that college for his sophomore year. Instead he attended a local community college to get his grades back up. After a year there, he went back to his original college.

Then something happened. His own personal light went on. I believe strongly that the parents, by letting him, and supporting him while not mitigating the consequences of his actions, modeled the same kind of decision making their son needed to learn and embrace, to make a solid long term choice for his future.

(Think of how many short term decisions have come back to bite you in the butt!)

He decided to leave that school and transfer to a school that provided him with a better environment for his future, not the team he was playing on. He made the team at his new school and is playing a lot. But what is most important is not that he is playing again at the college level, what is important is that the journey revealed to him what it is that was most beneficial to him for his future, not just his present.

To see these two ladies tell their separate but very enlightening stories about their children, was wonderful. I truly enjoyed the time I spent with them.

Watching the light go on for them as it pertains to how their sons got to where they are, and how they did it, was a joy to see. To see that joy and contentment that only a mom can radiate made my whole day, and I hope it made theirs!

You can follow VJ on twitter @VJJStanley, go to his website frozenshorts.com to read other blogs and see video interviews of Doctors, Athletes, Coaches, and more. You can follow him on face book, or contact him at vj@frozenshorts.com.  His book: Stop the Tsunami in Youth Sports is available in E-Reader and paperback through his website frozenshorts.com

The Kids Know

The Kids know!

I was talking with two very nice ladies recently. Both of them had children playing youth sports. We were planning on scheduling a talk about youth sports. As is the case with these pre-meetings, I almost always try to model what I will be talking about in my presentation with these people.

Please understand that I also drank the Kool aid, almost everyone has a taste. What I am trying to change is the idea that ordering pitchers and shots of Kool aid is of benefit

I told them a couple of stories about my children and what we had gone through as a family.  I give them generalities that apply to most people about youth sports: specialization, entitlement, fun, balance, the journey, injuries, mental health, winning, scholarships, and a better way to do things for the children.

 Most parents are well meaning good people and these two ladies had a special desire to get the word out for the benefit of all. These two ladies had been friends for a while and each had a unique story about one of their children that was applicable and mirrored what many parents and CHILDREN were going through in their journey in youth sports.

One mom told a story of her son and his friend. Each was athletic and played sports together. One of the children decided to play their sport exclusively and try to live the “dream.”  Now I am all for dreams, but I always try to get people to understand that there is a difference between goals and dreams. It is the parents’ jobs to know the difference. The other children played multiple sports. When it was tine for college each family and child took a different path, based on the child’s wishes, and the parents desires.

The first child went on to play college athletics. He went to a non DI school and when the coach left, the new coach coming in hardly played this boy. It happens.

The second child, and the child of this lady, who had been exposed to multiple sports, different experiences, and had not participated in "elite" travel sports took an entirely different approach to his choice of colleges. During one visit were he and his family were brought in with other athletes for what I call the “cattle call “ interview process in which many athletes are brought in at once, interviewed but the coach, and then the decision is made by the coaching staff on who to go after, is made. Well, not in this case!

This young man, because of his upbringing, told the coach he wasn’t sure he wanted to play sports in college. I would have paid to see the look on the coaches’ face and been there for the meeting with his assistants after this get together was over!

 One college down two to go!

The next visit was to a campus during the sports season. After attending a seminar on academics, the mom said there was an event going on in the child’s sport and why don’t they go take a look. When they got there the young man commented on how few people were in the stands, and how many kids were on the team.

The last college didn’t have a sports team in this child’s area. This is the college he attended.

When I mentioned to the mom that the child was sending messages to his parents on what he wanted to do in college, and what he wanted to avoid be pressured to do, by the school that he chose, and the hints that he dropped along the way, you could actually see the light go on for her.

This is what we do at Frozen Shorts. We try and get people to associate their experience with the big picture, extrapolate and identify their connection and get them to come to a new enlightenment about their journey.

I am just the messenger, the truth is already there!

Next week the other child’s journey!

You can follow VJ on twitter @VJJStanley, go to his website frozenshorts.com to read other blogs and see video interviews of Doctors, Athletes, Coaches, and more. You can follow him on face book, or contact him at vj@frozenshorts.com.  His book: Stop the Tsunami in Youth Sports is available in E-Reader and paperback through his website frozenshorts.com